Gratitude and Growth

I am thinking a lot about the power of gratitude today. This might sound strange to some, but I am grateful for all the mistakes I have made in my life. I am grateful for all those people whom I have had conflicts. I am grateful for all of the struggles I have endured. I am even grateful to those whom I have been deeply hurt by. I am grateful for my pain.

 

Without all of those experiences, I would not have grown so immensely in such a short period of time. I think, somehow in misery and obstacles, I have found that I have grown the most. I say this to you all, so I remember it for myself. It is quite easy to get caught up in the moments that make us frustrated or depressed or anxious and get a case of the “why me” mindset. It’s easier to fall into the trap of pointing the finger at others and placing blame than it is to reflect on how, even in those moments of anguish, we are learning and growing.

 

Remembering to be grateful is not reserved for only the great things that happen in our lives, it is meant for the challenging ones too. That’s what faith is at the core, beyond religion, beyond dogma, it’s remembering to have gratitude for all our experiences.

 

No matter what you are going through in your life, positive or negative as it may seem in the moment, if you can remember that you are growing and learning from each and every experience and are able to find the gratitude in that, you will persevere.

 

Wishing you all gratitude.

 

Carrie

The Light

I’ve heard it said: “It’s always darkest before the dawn”. I disagree. It’s darkest in the middle of the night when your mind won’t let you sleep. It’s darkest when the walls start closing in from anxiety. It’s darkest when you can’t fathom your way out of a situation, feel depressed and question your existence. It’s darkest when you are alone, and you wish you had someone to talk to. It’s darkest when you feel alone, even in a room full of people. It’s darkest when your heart is freshly broken by love. It’s darkest when your gut aches from betrayal. When the darkest moments in my life have occurred there has always been one continuous light that guided me through it all: writing.

What would you say if I told you…there is a way of helping yourself through difficult emotional states that is free. It costs nothing once you know what to do and it can be with you any time you need it to. It will never judge you or give you direct advise. It will never ask you to change something about yourself when you are not yet ready to face it. It always goes at your pace, on your terms, and allows you the reflective space you need to process, learn and grow.

In my personal and professional struggles, writing has always been my most trusted adviser. My answers were always inside me, lingering in the back of my mind, waiting for me to see them. Writing never judged me for my thoughts nor my fears in those most intense emotional moments. It just let me purge the thoughts onto paper and do what I want with them. It gave me back control when I thought I was losing it. It was my best friend in life, always there when I needed it, 24 hours a day and didn’t cost me a thing, except a writing utensil and some paper. Not once did it ever let me down. Putting pen to paper and letting it all out, there is nothing more satisfying to me. This alone is cathartic.

Therapeutic writing takes it further; you get to delve deeper into yourself, you reflect on your actions, dig into your own understanding of why you felt those emotions, ask why you behaved like that, what part you played in the whole story. Once you can see your role, your choices played out and the results, then you can make changes in yourself.

            This is the part I want to share, the next steps beyond writing it down are crucial to growth. This way of writing that I have learned has helped me to rise both personally and professionally and I want to give that to others. This is Therapeutic Writing Works primary goal: To help you, the helper, to help yourself to build resilience through writing.